Any hard-working, kick-ass feminist knows that making more dolla, dolla bills than your S.O. ain’t no thang.
Actually, a study out last year by the Center For American Progress found that women (mostly mothers) are increasingly becoming the breadwinners (a.k.a. Netflix bill payers, bar tab coverers, and pizza purchasers) of their families.
Obviously, this is baller—especially since women are generally paid 87 cents on the dollar for the same job dudes do (ugh, that’s a whole other story). However, rolling in the dough when your partner-in-crime makes significantly less than you can put you in an awkward place.
For all the ladies who know what it’s like to make more paper than your partner, this one is for you.
1. Celebrating your big, fat raise can get awkward.
Wooping it up in honor of your new fatter paycheck with bae seems fun in theory. But when the check for your fancy dinner comes, you can see the fear in his eyes. Yes, this meal is to give you props for your accomplishments, and yes, you’re probably paying for at least half of this dinner. Sometimes you can’t have it all.
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2. Picking up the tab at the bar feels kind of awesome.
Don’t worry sweet thing, mama’s got your four Bud Lights. (Spice up your sex life with this organic lube from the Women’s Health Boutique)
3. Getting spoiled with gifts and bougie dinners isn’t really your thing—at least for now.
Of course you can’t help but get a little jelly when your friend shares the details on the crazy sushi dinner her manfriend took her to—just because. But, honestly, enjoying a spread like that wouldn’t even be fun when you know your P.I.C. would just spend the whole night dripping sweat, trying to guess what the priceless menu items actually cost. More pizza, less stress.
4. You appreciate the little things more.
Whoa, baby. He got the toothpaste two months in a row and picked up your birth control from the pharmacy for you? Damn, you’ve got it made.
5. You’re more cautious about that joint account.
It’s awesome to be the one raking in the most cash for your retirement goals, dream house, and vacays. But you don’t want no scrub. You’re extra careful about making what’s yours his (and vice versa).
6. Buying presents for your boo is more fun.
When he can’t buy those Beats headphones himself, it’s nice to show him some love in the form of gifts. You know he’ll return the favor (any way that he can, wink).
7. You can’t help but feel like the Jessica Simpson of your relationship.
You pay your own bills and look good doing it.