You probably already know that Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell, who fell in love on a film set 34 years ago and have been together since, are the cutest. But what you probably didn’t realize is that it takes a lot of work to keep that spark alive.
In a new interview with People, Goldie reveals her secrets to a happy, monogamous, long-lasting relationship: “Love, gratitude, compassion, because sometimes every man or every woman will drive their partner crazy. Family. Fun. Laughs. Sex. If you don’t nurture that, and remember, you’re done.”
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The couple, who are happily unmarried, recently received side-by-side stars on the Hollywood Walk of Fame—and the picture of the two of them kissing at the ceremony was beyond #goals. And while Goldie says it’s not all smooth sailing, they make it work.
“Monogamy is a very tough order,” she said. “You’re in the prime of your life, you are attracted to other people, potentially, you have fantasies about that. It really runs the risk, if you will, if you’re not aware that you could maybe screw up a really good thing by doing that.” (Spice things up in the bedroom with the Tiani 2 Couples Massager from the Women’s Health Boutique!)
She says that you have to handle those feelings outright rather than suppressing them. “I’m sure I’ve been party to it, and Kurt’s been—we’re all normal this way. It’s like, ‘You really liked that guy, didn’t you?’ Or the woman says, ‘You were looking at her.’ My answer would be, ‘Of course. Why not? She’s beautiful.’ Would you want a man who doesn’t look? Who doesn’t feel inspired by the beauty or the curves of a woman’s body? Or the way she is? I mean, come on. We’re human beings. There is, I guess, an elasticity to the relationship. Otherwise it’s going to break, just like a rubber band.”
Another thing that’s important to the couple: Their blended family. Hawn said that watching Russell interact with her kids was one of the sure signs he was a good guy. “He was amazing with them,” she recalls.